via YouTube Capture
On Loving Each Other for Lifetimes and Seconds
[Transcript for video of Kim and Tiq Milan on the day of their wedding]
Kim: So grateful...to get to love him. To get to spend the rest of my life like trying to top each other in the way we love each other. Like, we worship each other. It's so intense the way we love each other. And it feels like such a  purpose, like my life's purpose is now clear. And I'm able to like, manifest it and like femifest it because of YOU. (Kim turns to look at Tiq with utmost adoration). You know everything is bigger, there's nothing small about it. It's so magical. I'm so so so happy. (Kim gazes at Tiq with the same adoration and they hug each other).
["Aw"ing from people beyond the camera's scope while Kim and Tiq hug. Question from someone beyond the camera: Tiq anything from you?]
Tiq: Um... Yeah, you know, this...I think, um. Us getting married, being with this womyn, loving her has been...it's been the best decision I've ever made in my life. Um, you know, it was...it was a short ride up to this point (Tiq looks down at Kim and Kim smiles and nodds) but um, it was real and it was magic and it was deep and everything, everything feels right. I have not one stread of doubt in my mind. This womyn is my best friend and she's my rock. She fortifies me as a man. Um and she's teaching me how to be a better persyn every single day. And I can't imagine my life without her. In fact I can't even, I don't even remember what it was before she was here. You know, um, she means the whole world to me. (Kim rests her head on Tiq's shoulder). And I'm gonna spend the rest of my life taking care of her. (Tiq turns to look at Kim and Kim is smiling up at Tiq. Tiq leans over to give Kim a kiss on the lips).
[Someone beyond the camera's scope says: that's lovely.]
Kim: You know it's actually only been three months...
Tiq: It's only been three months.
Kim: We're gonna be real... It was like, you were looking back at our messages (Kim points at Tiq) and we started really talking to each other on the 27th of January. And by the 29th, we were in love. (Tiq nods) We were like sure about it. We were like "I think...I don't know how to say this, cuz I'm saying it over the internet and that's a lot, (Tiq laughs and Kim gives him a little squeeze) but I'm pretty...I feel like...and it was (Kim looks at Tiq, shaking her head as though in very pleased disbelief) and he proposed around Valentines day? (Kim turns to Tiq to confirm)
Tiq: Yeah, Valentine's Day. Yeah, so... (Kim smiles at Tiq and nods)
Kim: He gave me a ring for my birthday...March 9th. And now...
Tiq: Now we're here...
Kim: May 5th.
Tiq: No time or space to process
Kim: It's just cuz it's really old actually. I felt like I knew him like thousands of years ago and we'd just been waiting for a really long time to like, be back with each other and hang out; so as soon as she we saw each other we were like "shit, let's do this. What are we waiting for?" (Laughter from beyond the camera's scope and also from Tiq). Like what would we be waiting for, and I feel like so many people have like asked us if we can like, slow down and be careful...but why? Like, why would we slow down when love is like...sliding. Like, why would thate be a reason to shy away? Why wouldn't we trust ourselves and like our intuitions and our gut as opposed to like, any other institution or idea that tells us that love cannot exist and be this grand between black people? Like, we know ourselves. And we know how, how capable we are of loving that big and that long and that old and that ancestral. Like, it's in our DNA. So I'm just like, I don't know, I understand if you've never felt it before (agreeing laughter from beyond the camera's scope) but like, I need, I need y'all to have faith. You know? That this is exactly the right thing in the entire world for us to be doing with each other. And we're gonna be really good to each other and to everyone around us. Like, that's our responsibility to pay it forward. Like we have this gift of love. Like, love it out. (Kim makes an outward motion with her hand).
(Adaku: Love it in and love it out. Love it all around. -Amen!-)
Tiq (smiling): All around!
(Adaku: Ashe, y'all! Ashe!)
(Kim reaches up to touch Tiq's face with both of her hands and Tiq kisses Kim's cheek and they embrace once more).