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For over a decade, David Tian, Ph.D., has coached tens of thousands of people from over 87 countries to achieve happiness and success in their dating and love lives.
Once a nerdy, skinny professor of philosophical psychology who couldn’t hold a conversation to save his life, David is now director of Aura Transformation Corp., and a world renowned dating and life coach using therapeutic methods.
Dr. Tian has been featured in international media, including AXN, Cosmopolitan, Psychology Today, as well as co-hosting a radio show on national radio and a weekly dating advice column in a national newspaper in Singapore.
The show, “Man Up: Masculinity for the Intelligent Man (http://www.auratransformation.org/blog),” is David’s way of helping as many people as possible enjoy empowering and fulfilling lives, while contributing to the global understanding of masculinity in modern times. In the show, he takes your questions posed in the Man Up private Facebook group (https://www.facebook.com/groups/manup...) and answers based on his experience coaching (https://www.auratransformation.org/co...) tens of thousands of students around the world for over a decade."
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In episode 50 of Man Up, I’m going to be talking about why guys lose their best friends when they’re in their thirties.
Masculinity for the Intelligent Man. I am David Tian, Ph.D., and this is: Man Up.
Hey, I’m David Tian, Ph.D. and this is Man Up, episode 50. We have 50! I never thought I would see – well, I did think I would see this day but it’s good to celebrate. So, episode 50 and I’m in Singapore. The question is coming from Max. He’s asking: Why do I have no guy friends, good friends. And the context is he got out of a relationship and is trying to get his life together again. Of course, like almost all these guys, when they get into a relationship, three years in, they don’t hang out with their guy friends anymore. It’s just all couple friends and now that he’s not part of a couple, it feels weird to hang out with couples so he wants to hang out with other single guys. But now he’s in mid-thirties and doesn’t have any guy friends who are single or whatever, and why did this happen.
The fact of the matter is – Max, I know you’re in Singapore but this is true around the world – there are plenty of guys in their thirties, mid-thirties, late thirties – I’m coming up to forty, almost – and we’re single. There are a lot of guys who are in their thirties who are single or who are with a girlfriend but can go out and be bro-friends with you - who aren’t married with kids, in other words. There are plenty of guys like that. But because you’ve been in a relationship for a while, you’ve cut off your connections with other guys.
So that’s your lesson for the next time you get into a relationship, make sure you let her know that it’s important to you to maintain your connections with other men just for you to grow as a man in your masculine energy. Not just as a parachute just in case you guys breakup. Let her know that. Even though that’s part of it, you can mention that that’s part of it. But it’s really because you haven’t been growing your masculine energy because there’s no way you could if you’re not in contact with other guys. So now you’re going to have to build your social circle up again. But you’re asking the question of “why”, not “how”. Because the “how” is easy.
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